10 Practical Ways to Disciple Your Deaf or Hard of Hearing Child
By the time you are reading this blog, you may be praying to God to make your child hear. Let me assure you: grief is real. It is a deeply personal experience, and it is okay to feel this way. You may not even recognize it as grief; instead, you might be thinking, “Okay, now what?” Every parent processes this journey differently.
For some, receiving a diagnosis of hearing loss for their child feels overwhelming and even negative. The weight of uncertainty can feel even heavier as you sit in the lobby of the audiology clinic, waiting for your child’s name to be called. Your thoughts may be filled with fear, wondering what the future holds.
Some parents of Deaf and Hard of Hearing children begin the journey of learning American Sign Language (ASL) or another form of communication to connect with their child. Some go against the advice of misinformed professionals. They often face challenges such as limited resources, accessibility barriers, and the pressure to become fluent quickly. Unfortunately, many parents do not receive sufficient support from medical professionals or early intervention services in learning ASL. Instead, they must rely on their own research, networking, and persistence to find the resources they need.
The good news is that building a strong relationship with your child doesn’t require perfection. What matters most is creating meaningful interactions and showing consistent love and support. Research has shown that parents who actively engage in their child’s language and communication development experience deeper bonds and greater confidence in parenting.
You may have already received a great deal of information from medical specialists and have a long list of appointments. The growing to-do list may feel overwhelming, leaving you wondering, “Will my child know Jesus?”
My dear friend… God – the Creator of the universe – did not begin writing your life story when you had your child. He began it before the foundation of the world. He has a plan for you, and you have been chosen and called to be part of the Great Commission, reaching one of the most unreached people groups in the world. Yes, you, my friend. He truly believes in you because you are the one He has entrusted to prepare your child for the purpose He has written. He is the Alpha and the Omega.
Yes, your child will know Jesus. You are not alone – we are here to support you and walk alongside you. Let me offer you a glimpse of the hope that is coming your way: Your child’s sense of belonging, emotional security, and faith can and will flourish when both you and your child feel truly seen, heard, and understood – together. Come join this ministry and we will walk together.
Here are ten practical ways to disciple your child:
Just like Jesus met people where they were, learning your child’s language is the first step in discipling them. If your child uses American Sign Language (ASL) or another sign language, commit to learning it, keep trying, and use it often. Even if they use spoken language, adding sign language can bring more clarity and meaning. When you communicate in their heart language, you show Christ’s love and care.
Many people don’t realize that the process cannot be rushed. Just as Jesus is the vine and we are His branches, it takes time to grow and allow Him to redirect us, so we can be fruitful as He sees fit. Therefore, it is not by God’s design that you should be fluent overnight. The truth is, you just need to show up. Learn a little every day. You’ve got this!
Jesus was fully present with those He ministered to, and as parents, we are called to do the same. Put down distractions and be fully engaged when interacting with your child. Make eye contact, position yourself at their level, and ensure good lighting so they can see your facial expressions and signs clearly. Presence is more than just physical—it’s about showing your child that they are valued, loved, seen, and worthy of your time and attention.
Jesus often used visual parables, signs, and miracles to teach His followers. Similarly, your child benefits from clear, visual communication. Facial expressions, gestures, and body language are key aspects of how they understand the world. Don’t be afraid to be expressive. It pays off! (Incorporating intentional visual expression benefits every aspect of your day to day life, from play to conversations and even teaching the Bible) Be expressive and intentional with your nonverbal cues to reinforce biblical teachings and everyday conversations.
God’s Word is central to discipleship, and integrating it into your home in a language-rich way strengthens faith. Fill your home with visually accessible Bible stories and ASL worship videos, such as resources from Deaf Missions, Deaf Harbor, and Deaf Kids Connect. Regularly expose your child to Deaf role models and a faith community where sign language is celebrated, if available. The more they see faith expressed in their heart language, the more they will learn how to become a Great Commission leader.
Jesus walked alongside His disciples, engaging in their daily lives. Take time to learn about your child’s interests, favorite activities, and hobbies. Whether it’s playing a game, doing crafts, or exploring nature together, use these moments to point them to God’s truth. Shared experiences create lasting memories and deeper bonds that reflect Christ’s love.
For example, a mother who is learning sign language wanted to teach her child about God. When he was younger, he would point to things in nature, and she would sign the word for him while saying, “God made that.”
Discipleship involves guiding your child through their spiritual and emotional growth. Create a safe space where your child can express their feelings, ask faith-related questions, and wrestle with doubts. Teach them emotional vocabulary in their language so they can identify and communicate their emotions in light of biblical truths. Validate their experiences and listen with an open heart, just as Jesus does with us.
Your child’s Deaf or Hard of Hearing identity is a beautiful part of who they are, but their most important identity is in Christ. These two identities are equally significant, much like a quarter – you see both the head and the tail, and neither can be separated. In the same way, your child’s identity is whole and inseparable.
This world, influenced by the enemy’s stronghold, often stands against deafness. That is why it is crucial for your child to put on the armor of God, knowing they are not a mistake. Support their self–advocacy, encourage connections with the Deaf Christian community, and reinforce that they are fearfully and wonderfully made. Teach them that God created them intentionally and that they have a unique purpose in His Kingdom.
Faith and family traditions are central to belonging. Make worship, prayer, and Bible study accessible by including visual applications and sign language. Find Deaf-friendly church services or create ways for your child to engage meaningfully in your family’s spiritual life. Model a lifestyle of faith that they can see and participate in.
Just as Jesus defended and uplifted the marginalized, you are called to advocate for your child. Yes, it can be exhausting! You already know the importance of fighting for your child’s right to have an interpreter in the classroom, during doctor visits, and ensuring their IEP upholds appropriate language access and that they see your child as whole. You fight for their human right to dignity and equal access to communication and opportunities in church and social settings. The list is long. I feel you, dear friend.
Teach your child how to self–advocate so they grow up empowered to navigate the world with confidence, knowing they are deeply loved by God and their community. You are a warrior – keep fighting the good fight!
Above all, your child needs to know that they are loved, valued, and cherished just as they are. Just as God extends grace to us, extend grace to your child as they navigate life’s challenges. Celebrate their achievements, guide them gently, and remind them daily of your love and God’s perfect plan for them. Every child longs for connection, and your role as their parent is irreplaceable. By being intentional in these areas, you will build a relationship that is rooted in trust, love, and faith – laying the foundation for a lifelong journey of discipleship and spiritual growth.
If you have any questions or need some helpful tips, don’t be afraid to reach out. We are here to help. You are doing great. One step at a time. We love you!
As We All Become Completely One,
Tanya Polstra
Executive Director, Deaf Kids Connect